Aurelia Williams

Wife, Mother, Friend, Coach

Ways To Boost Your Childs Self Esteem

Self esteem in an important quality for all children to have. As parents, you can help to boost your child’s self esteem by following the steps below:

  • Model good self-esteem: Express through your actions and words that you respect yourself. Children are wonderful at imitating what they see and hear. Remember, you are your child’s best role model.
  • Create positive routines: Young children need routines to help them to feel secure and competent. Try to set a good schedule for bedtime, rest/naps, meals, etc. Try to keep exceptions to the routine to a minimum and explain any necessary changes if/when they occur.
  • Allow many opportunities for children to contribute to the family: Give your child a job/chore that only he/she does for the family. Even a small job can have a positive lasting impact on your child’s self esteem.
  • Talk about the world in positive terms: Even though there is negativity in the world, don’t dwell on it with your child. When with your child, be sure to point out the many positive things in the world.
  • Spend time with your child: Remember quality is more important than quantity. Even if you spend just 30 minutes with your child one on one — playing games, taking walks, having long bedtime chats, or just snuggling in front of the TV, spending time with your child shows them that you value their company.
  • Give your child choices: Giving your child choices between a reasonable set of options that are already predetermined by you will make them feel empowered.

Take a look at this Self-Esteem Game it has 300 Fun Activities That Make Children Feel Good About Themselves. It comes with 300 self-esteem-building game ideas that require no special preparation or equipment.

August 11, 2006 - Posted by Aurelia | Children, Parenting, Self Esteem, Uncategorized | | 9 Comments

9 Comments »

  1. Hi Aurelia,

    This is a great post. I wrote an article for my blog entitled 21 Reasons to Send a Child a Greeting Card. Many of the best reasons involve increasing self esteem. It’s so important that we have AUTHENTIC ways of creating self esteem in our current society (I’m not talking about giving every child on every team a huge trophy just for participating) because so many of them hit the teen years and struggle to understand their place in society. A child with a good sense of self, can overcome this struggle easily.

    Comment by greetingcards | August 13, 2006 | Reply

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  3. I think if a child is taught to respect other children it will help them respect themselves and build their self esteem.

    Comment by Lyndon Antcliff | August 28, 2006 | Reply

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  6. Hi Aurelia,
    These are excellent tips. I wrote a post called “I am the mirror my daughter looks into” and it is basically about tip#1
    in this post.And the important connection between our self esteem and our children’s.
    Great job on the site. I will be back for more inspiration,
    ~Angel

    Comment by Angel | September 10, 2006 | Reply

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  8. I just came across this post – it’s an excellent list. Building self esteem in kids is extremely important. I recently developed a software game for preschoolers that encourages kids to “feel your feelings”, and helps kids learn to share and listen. It’s really hard to find “fun” ways to teach these important life skills.

    Best Regards,

    John Florez
    http://www.cheeruppetworld.com

    Comment by Cheeruppet World | December 6, 2006 | Reply

  9. Think about it… Tell me about my round ancestor I have a nice joke for you people! :) What is Beethoven doing in his coffin right now? Decomposing.

    Comment by funtyAccofHon | October 26, 2008 | Reply


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